Everyone keeps saying, “I want to marry an handsome man. Tall, fair, God fearing, chocolate, curvy, slim, curly hair, long hair, pink lips, etc.” Inside my mind, I’m like really? The first thing I do is to look at such a person? Does he or she have the same characteristics they are talking about? Of course, who wouldn’t want to get married to tall, dark, God fearing, handsome, and 6 packs? Lol!

Don’t get me wrong! It’s always good to desire beautiful things because we all have our personal interests, characteristics and checklist of what we seceretly desire in our husbands and wives to be. But may I ask you this question – Are you working on yourself? You keep saying, my future partner must be this and must have that but are you working on yourself???

Being a good wife or husband starts long before marriage. It’s a mindset, a learned habit and a way of life.. – Debi Pearl

What are you doing now as a single person to prepare yourself for your future husband or wife? If you don’t know how to take care of a King or a Queen and you don’t look like a Queen and a King, what makes you think you deserve a King or a Queen?
Lately, I have been working on my self generally and God keeps reminding me not to forget this aspect as well because sincerely a lot of times I do forget and before you know it now, one is married and it’s a whole lot than what one bargained for. Now is the time to prepare! Now is the time to make haste while the sun shines!

Marriage is hard work. It’s not for children, it takes quite a lot. You will have to die to self and the only ‘ME’ selfish attitude and habits but the most important thing is to have a solid foundation, one that cannot easily be shaken come what may.

I found out that people prepare for their wedding day more than they prepare for their wedding afterwards and I keep wondering why? Well, people love the attention and fame that comes with it but come to think about it, is that what really matters? Little, as to why the number of failed marriages increases daily.

I know it’s your wedding and a once in a life time thing ? You can even plan and prepare for it the way you like but please make sure that, much more preparations and plans are put into yourself and your future home other than just pleasing people on the main day. I am not a relationship expert neither am I a counselor but this is just a call to action for every single person out there, make sure you are becoming the very best version of yourself. Your future spouse, children and generation will thank you for it!

For now, I strongly recommend books like these –¬†Preparing to be a help meet and Created to be his help meet¬†by Debi Pearl. It’s one of the best relationship books out there! You can as well check out for others. Hope it helps you understand what marriage takes and helps you plan and prepare for what’s ahead.

So, what are those things you are doing now that is preparing you for your future spouse? If you are already married or engaged, what aided you before you met your special one? What insightful relationship books have you read? Kindly share your thoughts and contributions.

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