Living as a single person in today’s world is quite hard. Why? Because everyone makes it seem like something is wrong with you. And it’s even way harder if you are still living under your parents house. It’s as if, you are suffering from an incurable disease and you really need to be referred to a specialist for proper care and attention.
I’m not sure why everyone is trying to fit into the mole but I do know that each time I remember the days I felt discontent with being alone and loving myself all by myself, I wish I could beat myself up for ever trying to think my value or self worth was tied to a relationship just to feel loved by someone.
Being single is not a disease.
This mistaken belief that singleness equals rejection can lead to insecurity, self-esteem issues, hatred, and depression. If you are experiencing any of these feelings, it may be helpful to remember that you are not alone.
There are so many single people out there and it’s not a shame to admit it. Being single is not a hard thing and the fact that you don’t have a boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancé/fiancée, husband/wife, does not mean you won’t have one someday. It’s only for a season and that season will pass!
Not that I was ever in need, for I have learned how to be content with whatever I have. – Philippians 4:12
I have found how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty, or with little. I have learned to be content through this phase of my life and I am grateful that I get to do life not all by myself but with Jesus by my side.
I understand the struggles and the everyday pressures you keep getting from different angles and most of the time, some of them don’t mean it to harm you. They feel really concerned for you because they love you and want the best for you but you should also learn how to draw boundaries and set principles for yourself.
Take their useful advice if need be and live your life. Don’t let them push you into what you will regret tomorrow and don’t just settle for anything less than you deserve all in the name of getting married because your mates are getting married. I want you to know that YOU are enough, YOU are fearfully and wonderfully made, YOU are valuable, YOU are loved, YOU are different, YOU have a purpose, and YOU don’t have to wait until you’re in a relationship to start living your best life.
Start living life like YOU matter. Stop putting off your dreams waiting for someone or someday to come. Those things you’ve always wanted to do, start them now while you are waiting for your Prince charming. Some of us have the tendency of holding back because we are waiting for some perfect magical moments when everything will fall into place. The bad news is that, everything may never fall in to place, if you don’t take steps or make moves.
Related: Dear Aspiring Future Husbands & Wives: Are You Working On Yourself?
The Valentine season is here again and if you are single, don’t worry. Instead of wallowing down in self pity, envy, jealousy, or depression, simply because you don’t have a valentine, I want you to chill and rest. This too will pass! You can still enjoy your day doing one of any of the four things I shared below.
- Write a love note to yourself and get some chocolates or flowers to brighten up your day
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| Newton and David Flowers |
I love flowers and I love writing to myself as a way of staying inspired. It’s good to appreciate and celebrate yourself some times.
Do something productive and creative. Don’t stay idle either, get your hands on something you love doing.
- Go watch a movie, catch up on some of you favorite series on TV or watch YouTube videos
I will be going out to watch a new movie as a way of relaxation and I hope you do something fun too.
- Hold a Galentine date with close friends
Galentine could be really fun and exciting if you do it right. It’s okay not to have a romantic date for Valentine like other people but you can still make it memorable by hanging out with great people.
What are your thoughts on being single? Are you learning to be content with your single life? What plans do you have for the Valentine’s day tomorrow? I love to hear from you always.
P.S – Those flowers are from NewTon and David flowers, you can order for yours Here.
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