Girl Talks || The Harsh Realities Of Being A Woman
I find it quite disturbing when people tend to underrate women, who we are and what we can do. We may be referred to as ‘the weaker vessel’ according to Paul in the book of Ephesians 5:22 which actually means we should be treated with much tenderness, understanding, patience, and respect. But this certainly does not mean that we are less valuable, or we shouldn’t have equal access to what men have. This just means that men have a great deal of responsibility than women and it is quite understandable.
Just the other day I boarded a cab, then there was this edgy looking guy inside and like I would normally do (not all the time though) I greeted him and he replied. Just after 10 minutes, the next thing the guy could say was ‘can I get your number?’ and when I didn’t respond, he kept saying ‘all these ladies that feel too big’ and in my mind I was like seriously??? You don’t know me from planet A-Z and all you want is my number? I think most guys are guilty of doing this, so let me just put out this question to you men ‘to do what with our numbers?’ ‘to interrupt our greatness when you simply have nothing to add or contribute to our lives…huh?’
Yeah! Being a woman definitely has it’s own pros and cons. And you may think life is easy for us because we have the tools to enhance our appearance, look taller, and trick other people into thinking we are good looking but you can’t deny the fact that we have a very unique thing inside that makes us special. Listen, being a woman takes so much hard work. Each one of us has this task of growing a tiny human inside our bellies and then pushing it out, nursing the child, managing the home, cleaning up messes, working a full time job, and still take care of those scars that sometimes takes forever to heal. Those are just tips of the girly iceberg but below, I have listed the most popular harsh realities of being called woman and I believe fellow women can relate. And men, please take notes.
1. The Cat call thing
2. Doing make-up
3. If we are single, people expect us to feel bad about it
4. We are judged based on our appearances
5. The monthly cycle thing that keeps coming
6. Childbirth itself
7. We tend to be so vulnerable
8. Attaining beauty standards
9. The process of getting ready
The thing that bothers me most about getting ready all the time, is the time I may have wasted all my life just trying to look presentable because I’m thinking I should have solved someone’s problem with that time instead and get paid for it, Lol! But aside from societal pressures, the truth about this female obsession thing especially with our appearance is that some of us mainly do it for other females in order to join the pepper them gang as it is now popularly called. This sounds so vain to me and may be it isn’t but most women don’t just feel satisfied or beautiful enough in their natural state so they tend to do all possible means to look appealing. I’m not saying it’s not okay to want to look good, I do try to look good and even hot but what I’m saying is that all those things shouldn’t define you. It’s not about your hair, looks or figure, it’s about how beautiful your heart is on the inside, and possessing the right kind of attitude.
10. Sometimes we receive special treatment and get free stuffs because we are women